“I was 16 years old and living with my parents at the Institute my grandfather had founded 18 miles out side of Durban, South Africa, in middle of the Sugar plantation. We were deep in the country and had no neighbors; so my two sisters and I used to always look forward to going to town to visit friends or go to the movies.

One day, my father asked me to drive him to town for an all-day conference, and I jumped at the chance. Since I was going to town, my mother gave me a list of groceries she needed and, since I had all day in town, my father asked me to take care of several pending chores, such as getting the car serviced.

When I dropped my father off that morning, he said, ‘I will meet you here at 5:00 p.m. and we will go home together’. After hurriedly completing my chores, I went straight to the nearest movie theater. I got so engrossed in a JohnWayne double feature that I forgot the time. It was 5: 30 before I remembered. By the time I ran to the garage and got the car and hurried to where my father was waiting for me, it was almost 6:00

He anxiously asked me, ‘why were you late?’

I was so ashamed of telling him I was watching John Wayne western movie that I said, ‘The car wasn’t ready, so I had to wait ,not realizing that he had already called the garage.

When he caught me in the lie, he said: There’s something wrong in the way I brought you up that didn’t give you the confidence to tell me truth.  In order to figure out where went wrong with you, I’am going to walk home 18 miles and think about it’.

So dressed in his suit and dress shoes, he began to walk home in the dark on mostly unpaved, unlit roads. I couldn’t leave him, so for five -and -half hours I drove behind him, watching my father go through this agony for a stupid lie that I uttered.

I decided the and there that I was never going to lie to again. I often think if he had punish our children, whether I would have learned a lesson at all. I don’t think so. I would have suffered the punishment and continued to do the same thing. But this single non-violent action was powerful that it is still as if it happened yesterday.

” That is the power of non- violence”.