From Woman to Woman (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 1959), p.7


Forget the beauty — macho thing! In this fourth quarter of life everything seems to be either bulging or sagging. Art Linkletter was probably right in telling seniors, “The best deterrent to promiscuity is nudity.”  I can’t possibly look as old as the photos depict. Sleep or no sleep, when I look in the mirror the bags under my eyes make my nose look like a pack horse. My sixty something carcass seems to be falling apart! A friend (a friend?) recently told me, “Dwight, you’ll never be as old as you look.”  And then had the nerve to ask, “Do you get out often?” What? Do I look like I am growing barnacles, or something?

Well, Paul had it right, …Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. (2 Cor. 4:16b) I hope that is the case with you and me (the latter part about renewal, that is).

One thing is sure: As the years pass, we will either get better or bitter. A lot of it depends on how we treat our spouse, relative to Scriptural imperatives:

Live in harmony with one another – Rather than pick at each other

Be sympathetic – Rather than criticize each other

Love as brothers – Rather than compete as adversaries

Be compassionate – Rather than maintain an attitude of benign Indifference

Do not repay evil for evil or insult with insult.  (I Pet. 3:8b-9a)

And the reason we need to live this way? …Whoever would love life and see good days must keep his tongue from evil and his lips from deceitful speech. He must turn from evil and do good; he must seek peace and pursue it. (I Pet. 3:10,11). Translated: If you want peace at home, conduct your marriage affairs God’s way.

In an unguarded moment, a 70 year old acquaintance said of his marriage, “Well, we tolerate each other.” Tolerate each other?  Tell me, has your marriage slipped to the toleration level? Gone stale like cold potatoes?  Perhaps what you thought you were getting in a mate, and what you ended up with are not the same. Perchance that’s the difference in marriage between infatuation and true love:

Infatuation is when you think that he’s as sexy as Robert Redford, as smart as Henry Kissinger, as noble as Ralph Nader, as funny as Woody Allen, and as athletic as Jimmy Conners. 

Love is when you realize that he’s as sexy as Woody Allen, as smart as Jimmy Conners, as funny as Ralph Nadar, as athletic as Henry Kissinger, and nothing like Robert Redford – you’ll take him anyway.

One definition of maturity is the ability to live gracefully with situations you can’t change. By that definition, are you a mature person, as it relates to your marriage and aging?