LETTING
CHILDREN SPEAK FOR THEMSELVES
Their
Interests Fairly, Strongly
By
Alanna
Krause
From
the San Francisco Daily Journal, Monday July 17, 2000.
Editor's Comment: This website rarely carries articles and stories such as follow. There is little Christian application here except to show the lack of Christian principles in the treatment of this young girl. Perhaps there is a lesson here for all of us who seek to be obedient followers of the Lord Jesus Christ.
Hundreds
of years of legal history have lead the United States to implement a system that
ensures that every party in a legal proceeding gets a voice. We
rest assured that, unlike in other nations, we can not be incarcerated without
our day in court, lawyer by our side. What a country we live in: so civilized,
so well thought out. God Bless America.
But
there is a forgotten minority that is not afforded these basic rights. They
are not criminals or foreign aliens. In contrast, they are a group we all hold
dear - one innocent and well meaning, with no hidden agendas or twisted motives
- children.
Instead
of actually being represented, children get their "best interests"
represented by adults. We children have no choice and no recourse when those
adults have their own agendas. A case in point? Mine.
My
parents separated when I was 5 years old, sparking a custody battle that lasted
nine years. I never doubted that I wanted to be with my mother. My father
Marshall Krause, is an abuser, and living with him was a mental and physical
hell and definitely not in my best interests. Yet, in Marin Family Court, that
seemed to be irrelevant. My family court experience consisted of lawyers,
judges, evaluators and social workers who turned their backs on their
consciences and their professional oaths. They're worked contrary to not only my
best interests, but to my health and safety.
My
father, a wealthy and well-connected lawyer, used his influence and money to
manipulate the system. And he didn't work alone. The court-appointed evaluator,
Edward Oklan, M.D., fell under his spell and ignored my reports of my father's
abuse of drugs and of me. The lawyer appointed to represent my "best
interests" Sandra Acevedo, spent her allotted time with me parroting my
father's words, attempting to convince me that I really wanted to live with him.
She ignored my reports of abuse. And
the therapist my father made me see, Lana Clark, LCSW, was far from objective -
she was sleeping with him.
The
judge, Sylvia Shapiro-Pritchard, an admitted long-time friend of my father's,
rubberstamped any order my father requested. I wrote the judge letters, called
her office and did everything I could to make myself heard. She
ignored my pleas. I had no rights. I couldn't replace my lawyer with one who
would speak for me nor could I speak for myself in court. I couldn't
cross-examine the court evaluators or therapists and their claims were thus
untouchable. I felt like I was witnessing the proceedings from the wrong side of
soundproof glass.
My
mother tried her best, but she was a David facing Goliath - except in my story,
she didn't even have a sling. After years of valiant struggle gaining nothing
but legal fees, she had to let go and put her life back together in the hopes
that someday I could get out on my own.
While
living with my father, I did what I could to survive. I made nine reports to
Child Protective Services and several calls to the police over the years, to no
avail. They would always tell me that unless I had witnesses or bruises, they
couldn't substantiate my claims of abuse. Finally, one day my father threw me
into a stone wall at school and a teacher called Child Protective Services.
He's
never said as much, but my father panicked. He had worked so hard to build a
delicate set of lies and twisted truths to present himself as the well-meaning
parent whose "unstable" ex-wife had given his troubled daughter
"alienating parent syndrome," resulting in abuse
"delusions." The truth was his worst fear.
Acting
quickly, he had my therapist, his lover, suddenly decide I was dangerously
troubled and needed to be locked up. So I, an 11-year-old straight-A student who
had never tried sex, drugs or alcohol, nor ever been in a fight, found myself in
an out-of-state lockdown facility with 17-year-old drug-dealing gang-banging
street kids. I was beaten up, taunted and was blocked from communicating with
the outside world. I was forced into therapy where they tried to brainwash me
into believing my mother was insane, that my father's drug use didn't exist and
that the abuse my father inflicted on me was all in my head.
When
I realized the truth was getting me nowhere, I lied and parroted back their
words. It took me 6 months to convince them I was "cured." Holding
onto the truth was the hardest thing I have ever done.
After
my release, my father, thankfully, shipped me out to a nice boarding school. My
two years there were my best years since my mother and I were separated. When I
went back to live with him at age 13, I couldn't take it anymore. Knowing I'd
never find justice in Marin, I ran away, hoping to find a judicious jurisdiction
elsewhere. I ended up in Los Angeles.
Los
Angeles Juvenile Court took my case and placed me in a safe home. Court
investigators and evaluators found my mother to be a fit parent and my father to
be dangerous. My father hired an expensive lawyer and tried to play his old
tricks, but the judge had none of it. Full custody was awarded to my mother, and
visitation with my father was left at my discretion.
In
Los Angeles, I was a party in my case, whereas in Marin, I was only leverage in
my parent's battle. Los Angeles was heaven.
The
practice of trying to ascertain what is in a child's best interest exists
because minors supposedly cannot speak for themselves. Yet at 11, I could speak
for myself. I had a mind and a set of opinions, but no one seemed to care. The
judge denied my right to legal representation, especially when the
court-appointed lawyer wouldn't speak my truth. Granted,
there is no guarantee that hearing me would have inspired the judge to untwist
her motives and unclench her hold on personal allegiances and biases, but who
knows? At least it would have been in the court record.
My
right as an American is to have legal representation in court proceedings, but when my lawyer wouldn't speak for me, I was
allowed no voice.
No
American should be locked up without a trial in front of a jury of peers, or
some sort of legal equivalent, but it happens to minors all the time. We have an
elaborate system to keep innocent adults out of jail, but no system to prevent
the false imprisonment of youth in mental hospitals and discipline institutions.
Children
are not parties in divorce proceedings - we are property to be divided. Yet
children are people too. As citizens, we must be afforded our human and legal
rights. And when those adults who are supposed to speak for us fail, we need
some recourse.
Alanna
Krause is 16 years old and lives in Ojai, California with her mother.